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Shortly before the birth of our second child, my husband confessed that he was worried about something, He said that he was very much afraid that he would not love our anticipated arrival as much as he did our daughter, Susan.
I assured him that everyone has always said that you love your children equally. No one knows why; but you just do. Taking the word of everyone else, I wasn’t worried; nor was Gary once we talked.
We came to find out that it was, indeed, true that your love for each child is equal. Certainly they are different – ours vastly so – but you love them the same. Sometimes they think you don’t, but you do.
Being a parent is one of life’s rewarding challenges. It is very difficult to do it well because of the commitment and the time involvement, the patience and the persistence of both you and your children. I really believe that it’s important to read about developmental stages that children experience – remember the terrible twos? The turbulent years of puberty? If you purchase a reputable book, you will be relieved to know that all of it is natural. It’s supposedto happen and it is this happening that allows our children to slowly gain the the independence that they need and that we want them to have. It’s all part of being ‘well-rounded’.
Back to the equality of love. Surprisingly, I discovered that this ‘truth’ holds true for grandchildren as well. Whew! Max was our first, and our world revolved around him. But Anna’s arrival was equally rejoiced, and our love for her the same. Then four more followed and, yep, same thing.
I love the differences in people, much more apparent in children given that we are with them more. Max is outgoing and verbal, a deep thinker; Morgan much the same, but not as outgoing. She sees humor in most everything, and has the healthy ability to laugh at herself. Nina is ‘out there’ – determined, friendly, excited and loving. Protective of her sister, Paige, she is sensitive and loving. Anna is strong willed and level headed. She is athletic and a perfectionist. Ben is rather introverted and quite reflective. Competitive, he hates to lose. And the center of our family is Paige – everyone’s love. She, too, is strong willed, but loving and smiling.
Well, that’s more than enough about the grandchildren. You get the idea. And, by the way, it’s impossible to parent perfectly, so don’t even try to go there!
Until next time.
Ann Kochenberger, wife, mother and grandmother, is the author of the award winning Out Of Focus…Again. Visit her website at www.OutOfFocusAgain.com and take a look at the e-books that she and her husband, Gary, have written and are avilable for downloading.